When He's Just A Little Too Excited

Dealing with Premature Ejaculation...

Premature ejaculation is defined as "the occurrence of ejaculation prior to the wishes of both sexual partners." So, there is no set time limit. Nothing that states - if your fountain turns on after 2 minutes that's ok, but less 1:59 and we've got an issue. That means a lot more men have the condition than you probably think. If your partner climaxes before you are ready, that can be classified as premature ejaculation. This is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions for men under 40 and some researchers think PE could affect one in three men. If PE occurs during more than 50% of sexual encounters, treatment may be an option.

There are many causes of PE, including:

• Being in repeated instances where a man may have hurried to climax (think junior high, don't want to get caught wacking off)
• Anxiety/Stress
• Abnormal hormone levels
• Thyroid problems
• Infection of penis or urethra

If you are dealing with a serious issue that is causing realtionship problems or is affecting sexual satisfaction, it is important to contact your healthcare provider who can provide medical treatment or refer you to a sex therapist. Two techniques that are often recommended by sex therapists are The Squeeze Technique and Stop Start Technique.

Squeeze Technique
1. Engage in sexual activity as usual until he feels like he's ready to pop
2. Have him squeeze the end of his penis where the head joins the shaft and maintain the squeeze until the urge subsides
3. Wait about 30 seconds and start again with foreplay, not intercourse
4.Repeat this several times before finally allowing him to orgasm

Stop Start Technique
1. A man should start masturbating with a dry hand (or you can do it for him if you want to play too)
2.Vary stroking technique to prolong orgasm
3. When he feels close, back off and start again as he feels further from ejacualtion
4. Do this a couple of times a week and as you find him taking longer to orgasm, move to manual stimulation with lubrication
5. You know what's coming, right? Move to oral stimulation using the same technique and eventually intercourse
6. It's important not to engage in intercourse until he is ready. Mixing the stop start technique with regular intercourse will not allow the training to work effectively!

If you've just got a sometimes issue or you simply want to try something new, try Time in a Bottle. It's a prolonging cream made with benzocaine to help even out the playing field.

Happy Humping!